HJ: There is such a great quote in this article: Pleasure is not happiness. Pleasure is conditional and happiness is not conditional. I think this is a big area of confusion for many people and definitely for myself at times in my life. Happiness is not conditional — this is an extremely important point to remember as thinking otherwise is a trap of duality — getting caught up in the rightness or wrongness of a situation, when in fact the situation ‘simply is’ and we choose how to react to it or even if we react to it. Two people experiencing the same event will have entirely different reactions — each valid and each a reflection of their own unique selves and level of awareness/consciousness.
Therefore, you can choose to be happy by cultivating the 4 keys to happiness in your life, which are beautifully presented below. I will add in, however, not to force it! While you are learning to master the keys and even after doing so you may still find yourself frustrated or unhappy at times. The solution to this is not to deny these emotions but to understand what aspect of yourself/your mind is still causing them to exist. In this way, you will be directed towards that part of yourself which still needs healing. Unhappiness, when properly utilized and understood will ultimately lead you to greater happiness. How beautifully ironic.
The 4 Keys to Happiness
By Anando | Life Trainings
Understanding the nature of happiness is a hot new topic in science – it appears in all the scientific magazines, and the BBC recently devoted a series of programs to the subject, interviewing scientists from all over the world. It even has a name, ‘The neuroscience of happiness’.
The scientists have been trying to understand how the different mechanisms of desire, want, happiness and pleasure work in the brain. And from their million dollar research on the subject, many of their conclusions confirm what Osho was saying way back in the 1960’s.
They have ‘discovered’ that most of the things we think will make us happy, don’t, at least not for long. For example to their surprise they found that money, beyond enough for basic needs, does not bring more happiness. Nor do the things money can buy. Research has shown that even people who win vast sums in a lottery, after just a few years are as miserable as they were before they won.
Why is this so? First, the things that give us pleasure are usually physical – sex gives us bodily gratification, money and objects give us mental gratification. But all these are transitory pleasures.
After a while, we take ‘things’, including people, for granted – even things that once made us ecstatic. For example, the new lover, or the new car or house, the new dress or the new technological whizzmo… the initial thrill soon wears off, and then we are looking for something better, aren’t we?
It is what the scientists call the ‘hedonic treadmill’. We adapt to things so fast, and the more possessions and accomplishments we have, the more we need to have, to keep boosting our level of happiness.
Osho explains that this is because the mind is always desiring – that is its nature. And once it gets what it had been desiring, it looks for the next object of desire. The mind can never be happy with what it has, it is always striving after that which it doesn’t have, or cannot have. He says the mind can exist only with a goal, because it needs a way to remain tense. If the mind has a goal, then it can remain unfulfilled, frustrated, and living in hope. And because we are so identified with our minds, we are therefore always in misery.
Pleasure is not happiness
Happiness, says Osho, is different from pleasure. Pleasure comes from things. Happiness is not dependant on things, it is not conditional. It is a state of being that comes from inside you. Happiness is when there is no desire for something, just a gratitude for what is. Then it is not a temporary state, because as long as you have gratitude, you have happiness.
According to scientists, happiness is a very desirable state: the evidence shows that happy people live longer than depressed people, are healthier, more resilient, and perform better than others. Professor Diener of the University of Illinois says, “In one study, the difference in life span was nine years between the happiest group and the unhappiest group, so that’s a huge effect. Cigarette smoking can knock a few years off your life, three years, or if you really smoke a lot, six years. So nine years for happiness is a huge effect.”
So what makes us happy?
Osho gives four keys to focus on developing in yourself. Of course, his goal is not happiness per se, his goal is to bring about a total transformation of ourselves. His goal is bliss, which is even higher than happiness. But he says that as we start becoming more real and authentic, more tuned into ourselves than focused on outside things, then happiness comes automatically, like a shadow.
Part of the transformation process, he explained back in the 60’s, is to transform our impure emotions to pure emotions, by developing four qualities. These are, in fact, exactly the same qualities that science is now proclaiming will improve your ‘happiness level’:
Scientists say that friendship has a much bigger effect on happiness than a typical person’s income. And not just on happiness, but also on health, because our brains control many of the mechanisms in our bodies which are responsible for disease. And just as stress can trigger ill health, it looks as if friendship and happiness can boost our immunity against disease.
Osho says we all have a source of friendliness inside, but life gives us very few opportunities for it to develop. In fact, most people die without this source being developed at all, because what we call friendship is usually hypocrisy and politeness.
He says we have to constantly create a milieu of friendliness around ourselves, sending waves of friendly energy all around. One method he suggested back in the 60’s is to do one or two things for others every day, for which you expect nothing in return. Forty years later, altruism, or performing acts of kindness to others, is one of the main suggestions being proposed by happiness scientists.
Let’s face it – usually when we look at people, our thoughts are critical rather than compassionate. But Osho says there is a heart inside the worst of people, and if you are able to see it, you will be filled with compassion. This is not the same as pity, which makes us feel superior to others, and want to help or change them in some way. Compassion involves love and acceptance of people as they are.
If you can understand compassion, he says, then you will know how to spread happiness to others, and that in turn will develop the happiness center inside you. If, on the contrary, you go on being cruel and critical and judgmental of others, it will feed your own unhappiness. Because we become what our thoughts focus on.
The concept of compassion has so far been missed by the scientists, but watch out for it in the future!
Osho says that for the spiritual journey, cheerfulness is needed. If you can live life as a laughter, then it is much easier to enter into meditation, much easier to discover your real self. If you live life as a misery, a sadness, you are burdened, and then you are not able to go far into meditation.
Sadness is just a habit. Cheerfulness can also be cultivated as a habit. We just have to start looking for the things in life which are full of light, not darkness, because the way we look at life directly affects what develops inside us. If we see radiance and light everywhere, Osho says, we will feel radiant and light – we will feel joy. Life has no meaning of its own – it all depends on how you look at it. ‘Drop your sadness and say yes to joy. Let your life become a song’.
Doctors have also discovered the benefits of laughter – in many hospitals laughter therapists now work with patients, since it has been shown that people who can laugh heal much faster. That shows laughter has a tremendously powerful energy…
In the meditation camp Osho was leading when he spoke about this, he was very clear with the participants that there was to be no grumbling or complaining, not about the food or the accommodation, or the mosquitoes! He said this would come in the way of their experiences of meditation, because a complaining mind is never at peace.
There are so many things in life to be grateful for, and if we can shift our focus to those things, if we can start to experience and express gratitude more, he says it will change our life tremendously. We will be filled with so much peace, and so much mystery and wonder.
The happiness scientists are also big on gratitude – they suggest keeping a gratitude diary in which every day you write down things for which you are thankful.
These are four keys Osho gives us, and he says that if we can develop these pure emotions in ourselves, it will create an inner expansion of our being. That is because pure emotions are not dependant on others, they well up from within us, from our being. And because they are not dependant on outside sources, they are not temporary, transitory feelings. They are lasting.
What is happiness?
“It depends. It depends on you, on your state of consciousness or unconsciousness, whether you are asleep or awake. Happiness will depend on where you are in your consciousness. If you are asleep, then pleasure is happiness. Pleasure means sensation, trying to achieve something through the body which is not possible to achieve through the body, forcing the body to achieve something it is not capable of.
People are trying, in every possible way, to achieve happiness through the body. The body can give you only momentary pleasures, and each pleasure is balanced by pain in the same amount, in the same degree. Each pleasure is followed by its opposite because body exists in the world of duality, just as the day is followed by night and death is followed by life and life is followed by death. It is a vicious circle. Your pleasure will be followed by pain, your pain will be followed by pleasure. But you will never be at ease. When you will be in a state of pleasure you will be afraid that you are going to lose it, and that fear will poison it. And when you will be lost in pain, of course, you will be in suffering, and you will try every possible effort to get out of it – just to fall again back into it.
The sleepy person knows nothing else. He knows only a few sensations of the body – food, sex. This is his world. And whatsoever you call pleasure is, at the most, just a relief of a tense state. Sexual energy gathers, accumulates; you become tense and heavy and you want to release it.
The man who is asleep, his sexuality is nothing but a relief, like a good sneeze. A tension was there, now it is no more there; but it will accumulate again. To the sleeping, pleasurable sensations are happiness. He lives from one pleasure to another pleasure. He is just rushing from one sensation to another sensation. He lives for small thrills. His life is very superficial; it has no depth, it has no quality. He lives in the world of quantity. The non-meditator sleeps, dreams; the meditator starts moving away from his sleep towards awakening.
Then happiness has a totally different meaning: it becomes more of a quality, less of a quantity; it is more psychological, less physiological. He enjoys music more, he enjoys poetry more, he enjoys creating something. He enjoys nature, its beauty. He enjoys silence. He enjoys what he had never enjoyed before, and this is far more lasting. Even if the music stops, something goes on lingering in you. And it is not a relief.
The difference between pleasure and this happiness is: it is not a relief, it is an enrichment. You become more full, you become a little overflowing. Listening to good music, something is triggered in your being, a harmony arises in you – you become musical. Or dancing, suddenly you forget your body; your body becomes weightless. The grip of gravitation over you is lost. Suddenly you are in a different space: the ego is not so solid, the dancer melts and merges into the dance. This is far higher, far deeper than the joy that you gain from food or sex. This has a depth.
But this is also not the ultimate. The ultimate happens only when you are fully awake, when you are a buddha, when all sleep is gone and all dreaming is gone, when your whole being is full of light, when there is no darkness within you. All darkness has disappeared and with that darkness, the ego is gone. All tensions have disappeared, all anguish, all anxiety. You are in a state of total contentment. You live in the present; no past, no future anymore. You are utterly herenow.
This moment is all. Now is the only time and here is the only space. And then suddenly the whole sky drops into you. This is bliss. This is REAL happiness.
Seek bliss; it is your birthright. Don’t remain lost in the jungle of pleasures; rise a little higher. Reach to happiness and then to bliss.
Pleasure is animal, happiness is human, bliss is divine. Pleasure binds you, it is a bondage, it chains you. Happiness gives you a little more rope, a little bit of freedom, but only a little bit. Bliss is absolute freedom. You start moving upwards; it gives you wings. You are no more part of the gross earth; you become part of the sky. You become light, you become joy.
Pleasure is dependent on others. Happiness is not so dependent on others, but still it is separate from you. Bliss is not dependent, is not separate either; it is your very being, it is your very nature. To attain it is to attain to God, to nirvana."
Edited from The Dhammapada, vol 10, #10, Q2
Anando is one of the women in the ASHA Foundation, UK, list of 240 “influential, inspiring women from all walks of life and from around the world who are outstanding in their fields.” She has over 30 years experience of practicing and working with Osho meditations and transformative techniques. Her workshops have taken her to every corner of the world, to work with people of all nationalities. Anando worked closely with Osho for many years, and her loving joyful and direct approach allows people to quickly realise their own potential for inner bliss and joy. Her book YES – A Practical Guide to Loving your Life is available in English, Italian, Chinese (both Taiwan & mainland China versions), and Russian. It includes the guided relaxation CD Watching the Mind.