HJ: Trying to stay motivated is like trying to keep a bucket with a hole in it filled with water. It’s basically futile because it doesn’t address the root of the problem, which is the hole. You are the bucket and the water is your motivation. When there are no holes, the motivation stays and is effortless. When there are holes, your motivation will constantly be draining until you deal with the problem.
What, then, metaphorically speaking, are the holes in your life? They are the limiting beliefs that sap your energy, creativity and motivation until they are addressed once and for all. This is they key to becoming and staying motivated — do not focus on the motivation itself — focus on the barriers to motivation. The motivation exists if the desire exists — you simply need to stop doubting yourself!
Self-doubt is one of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their life purpose. It is no coincidence that high achievers are famously very confident — but it is important to remember that their confidence comes first and the success follows. Your internal perception directly influences the world around you and the reality that you create for yourself. As long as you doubt your abilities, you will be secretly sabotaging your efforts.
Morty Lefkoe ties it all beautifully together below.
Why Motivation Can’t Work
By Morty Lefkoe | Morty Lefkoe
Have you ever tried to motivate yourself to take action? What happened? If you are typical, the motivation might have worked for a short time, but probably didn’t last and didn’t work in the long run. Did you then ask yourself: What’s wrong with me? Why am I unable to motivate myself to do the things I really want to do?
I’d like to present a heretical notion about motivation: It’s not your fault if you are unable to motivate yourself. Motivation is a spurious concept, because it actually cannot work in the long run.
What is motivation?
First, let’s define motivation. Here are three definitions I found on the Internet:
- Providing with a reason to act in a certain way.
- The reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
- Motivation is defined as the process that initiates, guides and maintains goal-oriented behaviors. Motivation is what causes us to act, whether it is getting a glass of water to reduce thirst or reading a book to gain knowledge.
To begin with, the primary source of what people do and don’t do is their beliefs (what we feel is true about reality), not “reasons,” whether given by themselves or others. Moreover, the “process that initiates, guides and maintains goal-oriented behaviors,” is beliefs, not anything we say to ourselves or others say to us. Finally, motivation is not the process that “causes us to act” — our beliefs are the primary cause of our behavior.
Motivation can’t work in the long run.
In the long run people cannot be motivated by others (or even by themselves) to do anything using the promise of reward or the threat of punishment. If you want to do something and the necessary behavior is consistent with your beliefs, no motivation is necessary. You will do it naturally. If what you want to do (or what others want you to do) is inconsistent with your beliefs, your beliefs will trump your motivation in the long run.
If you have any questions about the impotence of motivation to drive, behavior consider the tens of thousands of people who are told by doctors annually that they will die if they don’t start exercising, change their eating habits, stop smoking, etc. — and who make no changes at all in their behavior. Almost all of these people want to live and don’t want to die, and yet those reasons do not “motivate” a huge percentage of them to take the action necessary to live.
How to get yourself to do what you need or want to do.
If you aren’t doing with you want to do, don’t try to motivate yourself. In such situations you will usually notice anxiety just preceding the need to take action, which is what prevents you from taking action. So the real question is: What do you believe that would cause you to feel anxious about taking action?
Some of the most common beliefs causing this anxiety include: mistakes and failure are bad, if I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected, what makes me good enough and important is doing things perfectly, what makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me, and many of the core self-esteem beliefs, such as I’m not good enough, I’m inadequate, I’m not capable, and I’m not competent.
These are the beliefs that cause the anxiety that frequently stops us from taking action. Yes, with sufficient will power you can do anything in the short run. But if you have beliefs like these, “motivation” (in other words, reasons for acting, be they threats or promises) rarely will be sufficient to overcome them in the long run. On the other hand, if you eliminate the beliefs that prevent action, motivation will be unnecessary.
Banish your frustration and disappointments.
It really is possible to be what you want to be, do what you want to do, and have what you want to have. Life does not have to be a series of frustrations and disappointments. The tools exist to remove your barriers to true happiness and satisfaction. Don’t try to motivate yourself. Use the tools I’ve told you about and create the life you’ve always wanted.
Morty Lefkoe is the creator of The Lefkoe Method (TLM), which includes a system for permanently eliminating limiting beliefs. For more information go to http://recreateyourlife.com/free . TLM also includes a process to dissolve the meaning we automatically and unconsciously give events all day long. For more information go to http://howtostopsuffering.com