What’s Keeping You From Healing? Why Some People Heal and Others Don’t (Part 2)

HJ: Despite what you may think, the only thing keeping you from healing is yourself.  All healing comes from within.  This is the only way.  What dictates whether you heal or not is your belief in any particular method of healing from band-aid to physician to Reiki healer.  For example, we are taught from a young age that the doctor is able to heal us, and so we enter their office with the belief that they can and will heal us and so anything they prescribe and/or do to us has the potential to activate our innate self-healing ability.  We externalize this innate self-healing ability and say that the pill they gave us or the technique the doctor used is responsible for healing, when in fact, this is short-sighted.  Those things only initiate our innate self-healing mechanisms due to our belief in their validity.

The same can be said for a Shaman or Reiki master or Acupuncturist.  However, in the case of these types of healers, the medicine they practice does not typically damage the body while simultaneously healing it.  In fact, these methods almost always heal and augment — meaning they allow one to reach an even greater state of health and awareness than one could ever achieve with pharmaceuticals or most forms of Western medicine (depending on the ailment).  The only prerequisite for accessing the benefits of these types of healing is a fundamental belief that they work.  You will be healed to the degree you believe they can heal you, because your own innate self-healing ability will be activated to the corresponding degree.

Consequently, as you lose faith in a system of medicine or healing, so its effectiveness will wane, as your innate self-healing response will be correspondingly diminished in response to the external stimuli of the healer or doctor.  Ultimately you can heal any ailment, disease, challenge, issue or mindset without any external healer or substance/medicine.  You only need gain mastery over your own mind.  This can be considered advanced, but that does not mean it is difficult.  One only need enlist their own belief and conviction to make it so.

– Truth

Why Some People Heal and Others Don’t (Part 2)
by Ben Oofana | Doiohm

This article is Part 2 in a 3 part series.  Click HERE for Part 1.

Miraculous changes happen when people’s bodies and minds are open and receptive. People here in the United States and other developed nations tend to be more stressed out, over stimulated and to have shut down more of their feelings. Many people’s bodies become saturated with the accumulation of unprocessed stresses, issues and emotions. The body-mind becomes very dense or “armored” from all the years of accumulation. That shuts down much of our sensory awareness so that we perceive less of what’s happening and it makes us less receptive or responsive to healing.

It can take considerably more time (five to ten sessions) just to dissolve the armor. The armor needs to be dissolved to create the kind of malleability that makes a person receptive to healing. It’s really amazing to see the changes in the people who do stick with the process. Their intuition and other sensory capacities open up. They become much more integrated as they digest the years of old conflicted issues and emotions that that makes it possible for them to be much more present in their bodies.

Those of us who live in developed nations tend to be a little more intellectually sophisticated. But we have also learned to live in our heads and that’s caused us to become more disconnected from our feelings and our physical bodies.

People of all nationalities or cultural backgrounds often fail to critically examine their beliefs. These beliefs may then interfere with their healing process. Many people are afraid to open up to their underlying issues or true feelings because they feel that it will cause them to attract some form of negativity into their life.

I’ve been working with a woman who recently lost her job. She told me that she didn’t want to allow herself to experience her feelings of anger, because she was afraid that she would be putting that energy out into the universe and that’s what would end up coming back to her. I then explained to her how that approach would cause her to become even more disconnected from her own feelings. Those feelings would then be trapped in her body and she would increase the likelihood of creating even more of these kinds of situations in her life.

People often say that you shouldn’t give any energy to anything that is negative or unpleasant. But the various parts of our subconscious mind have their own separate processes of thought and feeling that operate outside of our conscious awareness. Our subconscious mind is far more powerful than our conscious mind. And these feelings and issues continue to churn beneath the surface and attract more of what we do not want into our lives. This is why it’s so important for us to feel what we truly feel in response to what’s happening in our lives. Feelings and emotions need to be digested and we need to come to some kind of resolution with the issues that affect us, so that we can truly heal and integrate all aspects of ourselves.

I recently did a session for an artist who had suffered with depres

sion for years. She told me how the depression left her feeling immobilized at times and she had gained a considerable amount of weight. Conflicted emotions, issues and stresses accumulated within her body-mind over the years because she didn’t know how to process them. She could feel a thick heavy putrid mass of accumulated issues, emotions and physical toxin within her abdomen as I walked her through the breathing practice.

She said a number of things indicating that she felt better after the session. I explained that healing is a process and that subsequent sessions would enable her to digest more of the backlog of unresolved issues and emotions that had accumulated in her body that were contributing to the depression. I also emphasized the importance of working with the breathing practices between sessions. She told me that she thought that healing was a one shot deal and that she would think about doing another session. I called once to check in on her. I left a message on her voice mail, but I never heard back from her.

People may initially respond to the impulse to seek healing. But most people do not understand the processes of their own body and mind. And many do not follow through when their experience does not match their expectations. Some people are unwilling to face their issues and emotions. And they have a tendency to run when their feelings and issues begin to surface. The feelings and emotions that surface can be intense, and people may initially experience some discomfort as the body and mind clears itself of toxicity.

Fear can easily take over when the backlog of unresolved feelings and issues come to the forefront. It’s important for us to exercise common sense at these times. I let those that I work with know that I am available if they need me and that they can call. The unpleasant emotions will subside and the issues will begin to sort themselves out. And those who are willing to make the journey will find themselves becoming much stronger and more resourceful.

Healing doesn’t necessarily happen the way that we think it should. We all need to examine our own beliefs or expectations about healing from time to time. The process may not be as dazzling as we had initially assumed and we may feel worse before we feel better. Our mind needs to go through a process of reorganization from time to time to give us a context to help us make sense of what is happening. This will also help us to align ourselves with the healing taking place within our body-mind so that we can utilize the gift that is being offered.

I’m very familiar with the different stages of the healing process that take place within people and I do whatever I can to help people to understand what’s going on. Sometimes I feel sad to see people continue to suffer needlessly, but some people are not very receptive. They lack the willingness to learn or the commitment required to make the changes that are necessary facilitate healing.


I met Jan at the health food cooperative in Albuquerque, New Mexico. She was highly intelligent in many respects, yet her cognitive functions were seriously impaired as a result of having contracted meningitis some years back. Jan had a lot of difficulty concentrating and conveying what she was thinking. She would say a few words and then completely lose track of what she had intended to say. I found it very frustrating to listen to her in the beginning, because it took seemingly forever for her to complete a thought.

Jan had a strong desire to heal and she was open to trying out different approaches. She had a very strong unpleasant reaction to the first session. People occasionally experience healing crisis as a result of the sessions. I’m very familiar with the kinds of reactions that people experience as their bodies and minds start detoxing, and I can usually offer suggestions to alleviate the discomfort. But I wasn’t sure what to make of Jan’s reaction since I had never worked with anyone who had suffered from meningitis before.

Jan’s discomfort began to subside and she noticed that she was functioning better. She called me to say that she felt that the work had helped her and she wanted to know when she could schedule another session. I worked with Jan consistently during the time I was in New Mexico. She also began to work with an Ayurvedic Physician and the combination greatly augmented her healing. The changes that took place were truly amazing. There was a dramatic improvement in Jan’s cognitive function. Jan began to assume a leadership role in some of the local community service organizations. Jan’s concentration improved tremendously. There were still some slight delays, but she began to sound fairly normal as she spoke.

I’m always thankful for people like Jan who are willing to assume responsibility for their healing. They follow through and do the sessions that are needed, they work with the practices I give to do as homework or they do other complimentary practices. These practices make it possible for them to activate the healing powers that reside within their own body and mind. They also make changes in their diet, they work to improve their situation or do whatever else is necessary to facilitate healing.

It’s very gratifying for me to see people heal, to realize their potential and get to a better space in their life. I see people heal from anxiety and depression. Others heal from emotionally traumatic disorders, digestive and respiratory disorders, heart disease, brain trauma resulting from head injuries and a wide range of other conditions

I began training at the age of twenty with Horace Daukei, who was the last surviving traditional doctor among the Kiowa Indian Tribe. I’m currently training with the Chinese Master Li Tai Liang. I have also trained with other powerful, highly skilled and knowledgeable people. All of these individuals have their human frailties, but I go into the experience with the assumption that these individuals know far more than I do in their respective disciplines. And I make myself totally open to the understanding and power they have to offer. I really listen to what they say. I do the practices that they give me to do and then I find workable applications in my life for the things they are teaching me. And I continue to learn and grow.

One of the things I liked about being in Germany is that the people I worked with tended to show more commitment to what they’re doing. They’re more likely to understand that healing is a process and to assume personal responsibility for their part of the healing process to do the practices that I give as homework.

Many of us who live in the United States or other western nations find it very strange to see Muslim women fully covered by abayas or burkas. It seems very repressive and unnatural to us. Some of the women I meet from these countries tell me that they feel much happier here, because they have more freedom to live as they chose. Others are still very much attached to their traditional value systems and chose to remain veiled even after they immigrate to the West.

I was, for the longest time, so naïve as to assume that everyone would want to heal their ailments, emotional wounds and issues and fully open to life. People tell me that they want to heal, but many of us are not very congruent. And we find that we are either unwilling or unable to do the work is necessary for our consciousness to evolve. We may sincerely want to change, but that cannot happen until we learn to work with our feelings and emotions to gain access to the underlying source of the issues that are deeply rooted in our subconscious.

We may even derive some form of gratification from our suffering. In some instances we develop a strong attachment to our conflicts, confusion, ignorance, drama, suffering and other self destructive tendencies. We may become so identified with our struggles and suffering that it becomes part of who we are. We then feed off of drama and confusion and we continue to generate more of it in our lives because it’s the only way we know how to feel alive. Our drama and confusion can also serve as a diversion so that we don’t have to face the real issues. Our bodies will eventually reflect these issues because they are a reflection of our consciousness.

The light of the soul is buried underneath the many layers of density that accumulate within us, and it will remain there as long as we continue to suppress what we feel and avoid our issues. We often cling to our suffering because it is so familiar. We hold onto what we perceive of as safe even though it may be excruciatingly painful rather than surrender to the experience of healing. Ironically, many of us finally get what we have always wanted when we surrender to that which we found so terrifying or had resisted for so long. Through the act of surrender, we come to a place of greater peace, well being and realization of the divine presence within.

It’s normal to experience a certain amount of resistance as our feelings and issues begin to surface. Our internal resistance is a sign that we are getting close to the underlying source of the problem, but some people completely circumvent their healing process before they have the chance to fully heal because they don’t want to feel their true feelings, face the issues or go to these places within themselves.

Others discontinue the sessions as soon as their symptoms disappear. They just want to get well enough to where they can go back to the way things were and to not have to address any of the real underlying issues. These conditions are more likely to remanifest when we fail to resolve the underlying source of the problem.

Most of us are only realizing a very small fraction of our potential. That has a lot to do with our fear of change and resistance to our own feelings, emotions and issues. Many of us do not have a context for developing spiritual power, and we may have very few models to aspire to.

Ben Oofana is a healer who initially began his training with Horace Daukei, the last surviving traditional doctor among the Kiowa Tribe of Oklahoma. Ben went on to study with Chinese Master Li Tai Liang in Xin Yi Quan, Baguazhang, Tai Chi and Chi Gong. For more information, visit Ben Oofana’s website.

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