HJ: Getting what you want isn’t terribly difficult, it simply requires you to do the necessary internal work to get yourself there and take the initiative. The biggest mistake people make trying to change their lives for the better is what we call ‘rearranging the furniture’, meaning that they simply change external factors and expect to be transformed. Unfortunately this only leads to temporary results at best, as all real change begins within — with expanding and adjusting how you see yourself and approach life.
This article will walk you through many of the most powerful things you can do to help you achieve anything you set your mind to, for indeed anything is possible with the right mindset.
The Science Of Getting What You Want: 7 Simple Steps To Help You Achieve Anything You Want
Just imagine for a second you could make all your dreams come true, achieve anything you want and succeed in all your undertakings. Wouldn’t this be absolutely amazing?
And you know what? Achieving outstanding success actually isn’t even that complicated. I am not saying it will be easy, because there will be all sorts of obstacles and challenges on your way.
But, the process itself is very simple. It takes only 7 steps to achieve extraordinary success and to make your dreams come true. All of those 7 steps are crucially important and none of them should be neglected.
#1: Define your goals and become crystal clear about what you want
First, you need to become clear of what you really want. Sometimes, we think we desperately want certain things, but upon deeper reflection, we realize that those things are not really that important to us.
Once you are clear about what you want, write down your goals. Be as specific as possible. Mention all details that come to your mind. Always write and talk about your goals as if they were already realized, because at a more subtle level they are already reality.
Don’t just write down your goals and forget about them. Take at least 5-10 minutes every day to “get into the energy of your goals”. Read your goal definition once or several times a day. If you want, re-write your goals or add additional elements and ideas. While reading your goals, feel as if they were already your reality, add all your emotions and make them come alive.
#2: Dismiss all thoughts and beliefs that are not aligned with your goals
Everything starts with a thought. Certain thoughts lead to success, others lead to failure. If you want to achieve your goals, you need to become aware of your thoughts and beliefs and change them if necessary.
This isn’t really very difficult, it is only a matter of practice and becoming more aware of your thoughts.
For example, if you want to achieve financial success, you have to let go of thoughts like: “I will always be poor”, “money just slips to my fingers”…
First, learn to become aware of all those thoughts that are not aligned with your goals and whenever they arise, just dismiss them. Simply refuse to follow those streams of negative thoughts and replace them with more positive ones.
For example, say: “no matter what, I will make it… things are already getting better for me… nothing can stop me and I will easily overcome all obstacles…”
You won’t be able to completely change the quality of your thoughts in one or two days. But, if you really want to, you will be able to do it in maybe 2 or 3 months and from there on your life will change completely.
As often as possible during the day, ask yourself if your thoughts are aligned with your goals and if they are not, simply dismiss them and replace them with better ones. This quickly becomes a habit and it becomes easier and more fun with every day.
#3: Add some fuel to get there quicker
Once you are able to control your thoughts, you are already moving towards your goals with pretty big steps. But, you can move even faster, by adding some energy to the process.
I am talking about your e-motions (energy in motion). The strongest emotions are love and passion for what you are doing. However, at the beginning it is not always easy to build up those strong emotions that will pull you forward almost effortlessly.
That’s why you need certain tools that help you to get into the “flow”. And, one of the best tools are visualizing and day-dreaming. Take a few minutes several times a day and visualize yourself as having already accomplished your goals.
Add all your emotions – see it, feel it, hear it… Make it as lively as possible. And, most important, have fun day-dreaming and enjoy it as much as possible. It is very important to let go, to be relaxed, to get into the flow. If you enjoy what you are doing, you are doing it 100% right.
If you can’t fully enjoy it, you probably have to play a bit more and be less serious. By all means, don’t treat this as an exercise you have to do x times a day in order to get…
If you are not in the flow, if you are not enjoying it, it won’t work.
#4: Believe in your success
If you can’t believe in your success, you won’t succeed. However, if you are starting out on a big project it is perfectly normal if you can’t fully believe in your success right from the start.
Belief usually grows over time. You learn to control your thoughts, you prepare and re-program your subconscious mind by reading and visualizing your goals every day, you have a bit of success here and there… and you start believing more and more in the materialization of your goals.
Ask yourself, what keeps you from fully believing in your goals. Mostly those are old beliefs you took on from your parents, teachers, friends… and they usually can be destroyed fairly easily.
Whatever you want to achieve, there probably has already been someone, maybe even hundreds or thousands of people who already did it. Many of them may have even done it under circumstances that were more complicated than yours.
If others can do it, you can do it as well. Read some biographies and success stories and you will realize that all those hugely successful people haven’t necessarily been more talented or intelligent than the average person. They didn’t necessarily have any of those big connections, many of them don’t even have a college degree…
#5: Develop the discipline to do what needs to be done and take action
No matter how much you visualize and how well you control your thoughts, if you don’t take action, nothing will happen.
Ideally, the taking action part should happen naturally out of the love and passion for what you are doing. But, sometimes you will need to do things that are not so exciting, or you may have periods where you feel a bit less passionate and that’s when you will need some discipline to get going, to get started and to take some action.
But, this doesn’t necessarily mean forcing and pushing yourself for months and years. No, just a slight push here and there to get started. The more you practice discipline, the easier it gets.
Also, you will realize that most of the time you will need some discipline only to get started. Usually, you will get into the flow after only 10-15 minutes and from there on, taking action is easy and fun.
Yes, in order to achieve big things you need to take massive action. But, I’m not talking about years of hard work, I’m talking about inspired action that naturally flows out of your passion and feels like play and fun.
Do what you love and learn to love what you need to do. There is no point in wasting years of your life doing something you don’t like just because there may be a reward somewhere in the distant future.
#6: Just take one little step after another
If you jump on a big project, you may quickly feel overwhelmed. It may seem to be impossible to get from where you are at the moment to where you want to be and you may start doubting if you will ever succeed.
The problem is, our limited conscious mind oftentimes cannot grasp how to overcome certain challenges and it says: “It is not possible!”
Don’t listen to it. Just follow the process – think thoughts that are aligned with your goals, visualize and see yourself as having already achieved your goals, take one baby step after another… And actually, that’s really all you can do. If you follow this path, your bigger, subconscious mind will find ways to make your dreams come true.
Be patient, success doesn’t happen overnight and it never happens in a linear fashion. For quite some time, it may seem like nothing is happening and suddenly, the doors to your success are opening.
You meet the right people that help you to drive your project forward, a brilliant idea pops into your head – seemingly out of nowhere, the media start talking about you… there are thousands of ways and possibilities.
All you need to do is to keep on moving forward and to take one small step after another.
Never forget: All big achievements are the result of thousands of tiny baby steps and not just a few big steps.
#7: Have faith in the process and don’t judge your current situation
So, you changed the quality of your thoughts, you have fun with your daily visualizations, you take a lot of action… However, your outer reality still seems to be the same. What is wrong here?
You may have “practiced” certain thought and core beliefs over years, maybe even decades and it takes some time to get this energy out of your system.
Just be patient and don’t worry too much about your current outer circumstances. They are only temporary, and they will change. What you experience right now, is nothing but a reflection of your past thoughts and feelings. Be assured, your outer circumstances will soon align with your new inner vibration.
Unfortunately, many people lose their faith at this stage and fall back into their old habits of negativity and all the great work that has been done so far is wiped out.
Even if you would not be able to realize your dream, wouldn’t it be worth it to replace negative, destructive,
worrisome… thoughts with positive and uplifting ones?
Wouldn’t it be worth it to spend a few minutes every day visualizing yourself as someone happy, healthy, successful…?
Wouldn’t it be worth it, finding your passion and having fun taking action on your ideas and inspiration?
Don’t worry, this 7-step process works and it already helped thousands of people to succeed. But even if it would not work you would still greatly benefit from it.
No matter what you want to achieve in your life, be it financial success, health and vitality, finding your dream partner, having a hugely successful professional career… those 7 steps always work and you can use them to achieve pretty much anything you want.
However, the biggest reward isn’t so much the final achievement, but the path itself. The biggest joy lies in experiencing your own transformation. Watching the “old you” turning into the “new you”, which is courageous, full of passion, equipped with iron will power, joyous and happy…
The final outcome, the achievement of your goal is only the icing on the cake. Experiencing yourself as the architect and master of your life and realizing that you can achieve and materialize anything you put your mind on is actually far more delicious than the final act of holding the fruits of your achievement in your hands.
Robert Spadinger is the founder of EverythingIsWithin.com where he teaches people how to create a life that’s filled with love, abundance, happiness and success. If you enjoyed this article, you will also love his book: How to Create The Life of Your Dreams, which you can download for free from his website.