HJ: Do you ever feel like something may be holding you back, but you are not sure what? There’s a good possibility that you may be holding onto negative energy without necessarily being conscious of the fact that you are doing so. Most of the time this unwanted energy can be released simply by becoming aware of it. In the article below Jonathan Wells presents 7 common ways we let negative energy into our lives and tips for releasing it once and for all. As is usually the case, all we need to do is embrace some basic mindfulness and the rest simply works itself out.
Letting Go of Your Negative Energy
By Jonathan Wells | Breakthrough Strategy Coaching
We all have negative energy buried deep within us. On a subtle, mostly subconscious level, that energy is taking a toll on everything we do. At the very least it is occupying space that could be filled with positive empowering energy.
There was a time when I focused exclusively on the positive, while neglecting to give due attention to getting rid of the toxic negative residue that had accumulated over time. This was partially because I wasn’t fully aware of its presence, and partly because I didn’t understand the implications of not dealing with it.
Where does negative energy come from?
Throughout the course of our lives, we’ve all had experiences that were difficult and painful to deal with. These would be obvious sources of negative energy. We may even recognize that the trauma of those extreme experiences may have left us somewhat emotionally scarred. Naturally, finding a way to let go of the residuals from those experiences would have lasting benefits.
What you may not realize is that, in addition to those more obvious sources, there are little things that you might be doing every day that generate equally damaging negative emotional and neurological side effects. Here are some possible candidates.
7 common negative energy generators
1. Viewing life through negative filters. Our perception creates our view of reality. If we see life through negative filters it will skew the way we experience everything. More specifically, it will amplify the negative and minimize the positive. On an emotional level we will generate and store that negative energy and, like small doses of poison, it will accumulate and destroy the quality of our life.
2. Being judgmental. This is a trap that is easy to fall into because we readily associate a person’s conduct with their personal identity. The thing is, we all display different kinds of behavior at different times and there are a lot of variables involved. Stress not only eats away at our emotional resources, it also has a negative influence on the way we conduct ourselves and the way we respond to others. If we want others to give up the benefit of the doubt and resist the temptation to judge us, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same?
3. Assigning blame. Whose fault was it? Why do we ask that question? We usually ask it because we are looking for someone to take responsibility for something. We want to pin the blame on them so it doesn’t get pinned on us. Getting someone else to take the rap might leave us feeling like we dodged a bullet, but all we really did was release a flood of negative energy that will weaken our character. One of the best ways to empower ourselves is to simplyaccept responsibility.
4. Collecting negative emotions. Holding on to negative feelings of any kind is like drinking poison. We all have pleasant and not so pleasant experiences. If we collect the memories and feelings attached to unpleasant experiences they will accumulate and eventually dominate our perception. If it was unpleasant, let it go and move on.
5. Making comparisons. This habit comes from a scarcity mindset that feeds on the idea of competition. The underlying premise here is that in order for someone to win, someone else must lose. Life is not a contest with other people. We should all strive to be the best possible version of ourselves because that is who we were meant to be. We’re all completely different so any comparison is just an irrelevant mind game. Let it go!
6. People pleasing. No matter who you are, some people will like you and some will not; some will agree with you and some will disagree. Don’t worry about it, and by all means, don’t keep changing yourself in an attempt to live up to the expectations of others. This will only create internal conflict and confusion. Learn to connect with your true self and the rest will automatically sort itself out.
7. Playing the victim. Much like assigning blame, this one also goes hand-in-hand with not accepting personal responsibility for our life. If we see ourselves as a victim, then we are helpless to create positive changes. Helplessness is a negative, limiting mindset with potentially crippling side effects. Accepting responsibility for your life is empowering because it puts you in control. Letting go of the victim mentality will eliminate huge amounts of negativity from your life.
Letting go as a way of life
Recognizing the value of letting go of negative energy doesn’t help much if we don’t have the right skills to actually do it. So, is there a way to stop creating negative energy and to eliminate the harmful accumulation that is interfering with our ability to create the life we really want?
Some years ago I discovered an amazing skill called the Release Technique. Even though I wasn’t totally convinced that releasing would have the profound results they claimed it would, I gave it a try. All I can say is that the experience was absolutely transformational. From that point on, I never underestimated the damaging effects of negative energy or the empowering benefits of letting go.
Jonathan Wells is a Certified Personal and Professional Breakthrough Strategy Coach my mission is to help you achieve your goals as quickly as possible. It doesn’t really matter whether those goals are personal or professional in nature. What really matters is that you are motivated to move forward. If you are willing to take action and are looking for someone to help you make rapid progress, I can help you. If you’ve got the will, together we can find the way. Visit his websites: Advanced Life Skills and Breakthrough Strategy Coaching