The Importance of Spending Time with Yourself: How to Discover Your Mastery

HJ: One of the most neglected things in our lives is time taken for solitude and reflection on who we really are.  Especially nowadays with the all the different, addictive means of communication that the internet and cell phones afford us, it is more difficult than ever to disconnect and find time to be with ourselves, without distraction.  However, this is a vitally important part of our spiritual awakening and discovering of who we truly are.  It forces us to sit with ourselves and examine the contents of our own mind, which for many people can be uncomfortable.  They have avoided doing it for so long that they are truly terrified of what they might find.  Furthermore, they have been wrongly led to believe that their subconscious mind contain all sorts of uncomfortable memories just waiting to resurface when given a chance.  It is truly a dismal state and one that follows many people to the grave and into other lifetimes.  It need not be this way!

Sure, the first few times we make the effort to find solitude for inner reflection may be a little scary as we get real with ourselves, but this is ultimately one of the most liberating things we can do in life.  When we finally make the decision to examine the contents of our mind is when the spiritual journey truly begins.  This is the point at which profound healing and spiritual development occurs and the doors of possibility are blasted wide open in front of us.  One must always remember that the external world is a reflection of our internal state, and so, if we truly wish to create a life of endless abundance, peace and happiness, we must do the inner work first.  Our outward reality will then follow suite accordingly.  It is that simple.  Go and find a beautiful quiet place where you can be with yourself.  Meditate, perhaps, and explore who you really are.  Be liberated.

– Truth

Footprints in the Sand

Archangel Metatron via James Tyberonn | Earth Keeper

Greetings Beloved: I am Metatron, Lord of Light, and we welcome this gathering.

It is Year One of the newly Ascended Planet Earth. In this extraordinary phase of linear time on your planet there is a uniquely opportune juncture for self-review and chosen solitude.

Masters many of you, particularly those above the age of 49, the seventh 7 year cycle, find yourselves in a state of sovereign solitude. Spouses have passed, relationships terminated and marriage contracts have ended and many of you find yourselves living alone. And although this path is at times quite lonely, quite difficult and may feel ‘unnatural’ for many of you, it is a seclusion of purpose. You see the paradox is that in solitude you are able to quiet the mind, and open to Spirit …and in this process Angelic Gates open, and Spirit embraces you. You truly are NOT alone. You see detachment, however difficult,  enables an un-entangled freedom to examine the self in profound perlustration. And indeed that is truly requisite for all advanced souls.

So we tell you to use this time wisely, embrace it. You are on the cusp of a great graduation.

There is a recurring message in many of your religious texts: “For everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven”.

Divine Solitude is a noble condition, and one that offers quantum leaps in terms of growth, when understood, and recognized for its profound purpose. You see the Divine-Self is ultimately, conclusively alone in its final pursuit of omnipotence. In your terms, the soul enters the earth alone, and the spirit departs the earth alone. Ascended Masters that walk the Earth, have for millennia sought solitude in their incarnations before achieving Mastery. So it is with many of you now.

Dear Ones, Many of you who find yourself alone at this time, are of the belief that you must find a partner. Many of you seek your ‘soul mate’ your twin flame. Yet we tell you, in many cases among the advanced souls, you are alone because you have planned it. Indeed it is a special and noble undertaking. It is time for Divine Solitude.

Among souls seeking Mastery, approximately one of every four lifetimes, is a lifetime chosen for recalibration and advancement utilizing the planned focal freedom to do so by sacred solitude.

Solitude for those seeking sanctified light, for those seeking, what is termed ‘consecrated enlightenment’ choose specific periods in their life plan, to be alone for a time. This does not mean you will always be in solitude, it simply means for a time you have chosen to ‘work on the self’… to achieve self love.
Love of self is a condition that many, especially those from Christian heritage, have lost. Christianity with its teachings of original sin taught you that you were flawed in your nature, that you needed forgiving. You spent lifetime’s prostate asking forgiveness for who you are. You lost your sense of your divinity, and found it easier to give than to receive. Balance was forfeited.

For others, there may be a sense of self-condemnation from actions or missteps that have deeply programmed a sense of guilt & unworthiness. An inability to love the self has pervaded and created self denial because you are unable to forgive yourself for whatever action led you to this erroneous belief. As a result relationships have failed. It is a great Truth that you cannot truly love others until you first love yourself. As long as you hold beliefs of unworthiness, you will create a reaction of denial. You will repeat this self created exile, this self projected punishment until you learn that you are divine, that you are flawless speaks of God in your divinity. Life will  change when you accept this great wisdom, and learn to create your life. But self love is a requisite. Love is not an emotion, it is a vibratory frequency. Love is not earned, Love IS the way. And Dear Ones, it may take lifetimes of solitude for you to realize this. Life is difficult, and that is a great Truth, but it is often when you are out of your comfort zone, that you are forced to face the challenge and transcend it.

Now, we tell you that as the New Earth fully transforms to the Crystalline Age in 2013 and beyond, the nature of energy resonance and the dimensional grasp of the planet is expanded. There is a lessening of the influence of duality/polarity for those of you that choose to extend beyond the third dimension.

You may ask whether solitude or partnerships bring greater advancement to the soul. The question is timely and especially pertinent for many of you in the dawn of the Ascension. The short answer is that both coupling and solitude have their divine purpose…. and we underline the word BOTH. Much is gained in being in committed loving relationship. This is the natural circumstance in most sojourns on the plane of Earth. But Masters, we tell you that there is also great purpose also in solitude. It is in fact a requisite. It is no error that great numbers of you on the finals steps of the path of enlightenment are alone in this period. Now is the prelude to the coming Ascension. If you are among these, we tell you that perhaps your solitude is appropriate. Perhaps it is as it should be. You see it is how many of you planned it. Yet many of you feel that the loneliness is too much to bear and that you must pursue a partner…the elusive twin flame. Dear Souls, there is much confusion around the concept of the twin flame, the ‘soul mate’, and the role and nature of optimal partnership in Mastery of Self.

Solitude is intended to be a period of sublime reverence of self. Your life and your experience in this plane is your own creation, your own living tapestry, woven by your individual belief. Within solitude, the soul is prompted into self-review, and opportunity is given to dive deeply into the deep waters that flow within you. To swim in the ocean of SELF, and in so doing rediscover the love within, to learn what a brilliant spark of God you truly are. Relationships are a method of reflecting the affectivity of your belief system, and giving you feedback on what, simply stated, is working, and what is not. Detachment requires the individual to explore the self, to reacquaint with the inner horizon, and this facilitates and necessitates sovereignty. Sovereignty is the prepotency of Mastership.

A relationship of two sovereign nondependent humans has greater balance, greater creativity, and greater longevity than a pairing of two beings co-dependent on one another. Do you understand? Ultimately each soul must clearly define SELF in order to gain Mastery. Self Mastery is embodied in periods of planned detachment. It is that period in which impeccability is crystallized. And we tell you Dear Ones, crystallization, through impeccability is a necessary phase of Self- Mastery. It is a calibrational juncture in the multidimensional sojourn. One enters the void, the great mystery in the quest for fortitude and sovereign vision, alone, without a shoulder to lean on. And in the process, one discovers sublime wholeness and self completion. Do not misunderstand our meaning; there is great validity in coupling, in the natural aspect of soul mate.

But conclusively one walks the path of Mastery in sovereign detachment. One becomes enlightened when one learns to transcend the physical self. Each of you must endeavor to the final conquest of what we term as ‘impeccability’. Impeccability is the crystallization or uniform clarity of the soul, and it is a necessary virtue of Mastery. This involves release of dependency, the release of all that does not serve your divinity. It is a rebooting and reprogramming of all you are.
We have told you that the language, the fabric of higher dimension is sacred geometry. Impeccability is the geometric clarity of the soul mind. By defining oneself through impeccability one becomes crystalline, and thus more capable of Divine Consciousness within the geometric light of coherent higher planes. It is only accomplished by deciding who you are, what you believe, and then living it. Recognizing your truths, and aligning fully to them.

Question to Metatron: Are you saying that loving relationships, such as marriage, are not our ultimate union?

Metatron: Remember that in the highest realm you are in sacred Oneness, each a part of the Divine One. So in terms of duality experience, the answer to your question is yes. In this context, YES! Masters, in highest reality, you are a unified plural consciousness.

Relationships in the linear duality experience are a means to the end. We are saying that loving relationships are a sacred, joyful tool of achieving Self Mastery, but that ultimately in each soul’s journey there will be an ultimate growth into sovereignty. The sovereign self is a sufficient self & truly has no dependent need of another. Such conceptual dependency can be a deterrent to Mastery.

In truth you merge in sovereignty with your other half. The other part of your soul that separated in duality expression. Each of you have a male and female component in duality, and the other half is re-merged in the Integral Divine Self before rising into higher realm. This is in fact a requisite mergence, and is occurring for so many of you as you enter 2013.


Many of you consider a soul mate and twin flame the same. Only the syntax is in parity. The true meanings are different. The twin flame is the other half of the same soul, split in duality, and these are very rarely in physicality together. The ‘soul mate’ is in our terms, another soul with whom you have contracted to grow together within physical duality, as a means of development and exploration of love with another soul by movement toward common purpose.

The seeming paradox in linear relationships, that of the ‘soul mate’ concept (not the twin flame) is that a relationship of two non-dependent sovereign beings, has greater joy, greater balance, greater interface with the divine, greater opportunity for advancement than a relationship based on co-dependence. Do you see?

In this time, in this now of 2013, many of you are actually merging with your etheric (non-physical) twin flame, and molding your sacred fullness into one physicality in order for you to enter the crystalline realm of the New Earth in integral self unified wholeness.

In most cases this soul reconnection is accomplished in solitude or in sovereign non dependent relationships. So we say embrace your chosen period of SOVEREIGN SOLITUDE, it is the sign of your souls intent to enter into Crystalline Mer-Ka-Na Mastery.

We add that many who are in this life, of the female gender, have chosen particularly effacious roles in the balancing of the planet at this time. Is it not true that the planet has been unbalanced in an overage of patriarchal energies for millennia?

That is why it would appear that a vast majority of those drawn to the ‘New Age’ are female, you see, to anchor in the Divine Feminine. Females have been conditioned and labeled in your current paradigm as the ‘weaker sex’. Nothing could be farther from the truth!

Some of the females, who find themselves now in single status, are conditioned to feel they must have a partner. Again, we say, embrace your solitude. You chose it, we honor you for the path you have chosen. The ideal for the planet, is not to be female or male, rather a perfect balance of BOTH, but it is at the moment still in an imbalance of patriarchal resonance. We honor those of you in female biology, you’re strength is indeed progressing in creating the nurturing balance. Truly the over-soul is androgynous, self-contained. Self-sufficient. That does not mean that love is not the frequencial basis of the soul, indeed it is the highest vibration. It is the resonance that is produced by the Ascended Soul to the Cosmos, and reflected back as a collective harmonic of crystalline love.
There is a time when those of you have played the role of soul mates, will individualize, and in your terms, part in joy.

The evolved soul in achieving omnipotence, will become consummately self sufficient, and in so doing radiate spectacular unconditional love to ALL. That is as it should be, as it must be. It is how you Ascend. The final graduation of the soul is not done in pairing, you see. It is done within the Divine SELF in universal harmonic to the All that is. Do you understand?

This is the activation of Self to the divine resonance of the Quantum Crystalline Field. Separation must occur before the final collective reunion, it must alchemically occur to allow for the final coalescence into the ALL THAT IS. It is who you ARE. It is the IAM that I AM. It is the chosen, destined path of all of you.

In summation, our point here, is that if you find yourself in Solitude, recognize its purpose. If you are in a relationship refine it in beauty to the greater love of non-dependence. You will indeed discover the love expands and the relationship becomes more appropriate, more resplendent in non dependency; just as you are discovering relationships of unbalanced dependency are one way streets, and ultimately fail.

In sovereignty humanity will see themselves in the functional framework of being ‘whole’ and not being their partner’s property or someone’s ‘better half’. Each will bring their integral, whole SELF in fullness, in robust flow of energy into relationship, in a manner that often does not occur today.

There are pre agreed points that allow for freedom of choice and for change, even if that change is to end the partnership. In sovereignty individuals share their best, without compromise of ideals. Each will recognize the divinity of the other, and retain the integrity of SELF. They will afford their own promises and choices of a new paradigm, but there will be avenues and opportunities of adjustments and the ability of reviewing terms.

This will allow for greater recognition of the SELF. These will be designed to prevent energy blockage and reduce dysfunctional marriages and divorce complications and lawsuits, you see. Some relationships in these terms will indeed last a lifetime, some will not. But the archetype of sovereignty will better support both, based on choice and mutual agreement of each individual’s terms. And as such independence becomes joyful, devoid of one partner being dominant and imposing their beliefs, morality and will over another.

Humankind, in mass today, truly does not recognize or understand their soul, their divine SELF. Self is unfortunately regulated to the realm of ego personality by the masses. It is true that a higher degree of the light quotient is awakened on the planet now, more than has occurred at any other time.

Religion in the new paradigm, must be individualized, must truly recognize the nature of SELF the nature of the DIVINE SOUL.

None of your world religions truly answer these questions today. None of your religions acknowledge your Cosmic Extra-Terrestrial heritage nor your multi-dimensional nature. And that must and will be acknowledged & understood in the new paradigm.

None of your current mainstream religions can accurately and completely express the true history of man on the earth. As such, there is no one true religion on the planet today. Most are bought and sold on preset regulated templates. Each claim to know the paths to God, to be able to lead the way to God, yet none truly do. Each has its dogma; each has its hierarchy and some utilize fear based controls that encourage fanaticism and zealotry.

Man searches for GOD more fervently now than at any other time in on the planet, and so this seeking in itself has the potential to bring in the light. Few religious teachers are true teachers, scholars perhaps, but not true teachers. Others are charlatans, even within metaphysics and the so called ‘New Age’.
When integrity is not maintained the connection to true spirit is disconnected, and all who are human are subject to fall in and out of integrity. Truly the way in the Ascension is the ability of each soul to raise into his/her higher self. Look inside and find your own divinity within your heart. Not through blindly following a guru, evangelist, channelers or spiritual leader, but through SELF.

Accept only what you discern individually to resonate as true, Dear Ones, and do not give your power to another. Each of you can and must channel your higher selves. Study, look, listen, discern, review and only accept what resonates within you. The way to the divine, Masters, is through the sacred sovereignty of SELF, and in the Ascension, the way to the higher SELF is through self-definition, and seeking that aspect of God inside each of you, with the great desire that is embedded in each of your souls. Study, seek, and work! There is little hope for advancement if you chose to be lethargic or the lazy. Effort is requisite to rise above duality. It has always been so.

You are here to make known the unknown! Work at it! Be a warrior of light within duality, for the true battles are within for self mastery. The path is not easy. But within Self Mastery lies energy so exquisite that it fuels all you require to move forward …  and there is ever another level above each you ascend to. Consciousness is eternally kinetically expanding; it does not reach a level of static dormancy. So we tell you that your higher selves find great humor in cemetery epitaphs of Rest in Peace, for joy is a dynamic state!

Discover your path. Discover yourself. Love yourself, love one another, and love the divinity inside you and inside every one! Discover the multidimensional aspects of your true Soul. That is the nobility of solitude. And though the path is at times quite difficult and lonely, know that such is the challenge of duality, for above, you are whole, and lack nothing. In the higher realm, Masters, you are in your sacred nature of integral wholeness, in complete and abundant bliss.
We are ever with you. We offer unconditional love. We ask that you treat yourself and others with nurturing love and respect. We honor you!
I am Metatron, Lord of Light, and I share with you these TRUTHS! You are Beloved.

…And so it is.

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  1. Thank you for this very timely message!
    It comes to me as I was pondering about it all over these past few days…
    So cool to use words like sovereignty …
    Just the right word suffices to be boosted again and continue the journey!

  2. The point this article makes is an important one: we do need to learn how “to sit with ourselves and examine the contents of our own mind, which for many people can be uncomfortable.”

    But, I want to add a few addendums.

    1) There is a taboo in our society against all the Schedule 1 drugs, but this taboo needs to be destroyed. Meditation is wonderful, but sometimes it’s not going to be enough. The depth of psychological damage may be too great, and life is too short! I know that Psilocybin mushrooms can be tremendously helpful in releasing subconscious material into awareness, and MDMA, as a tool for people suffering from PTSD (which is way more people than you would think), has the power to open doors in your heart that you thought were shut forever.

    * Please do not censor this comment. I know people get a funny feeling in the pit of their stomach anytime someone mentions drugs. This self-censorship does much harm. It’s a tragedy really.

    2) The subconscious mind DOES “contain all sorts of uncomfortable memories just waiting to resurface when given a chance.” This might not be true in your case, but it is for many (like me). This material must be integrated into the psyche.

    3) While it may be true that “you cannot truly love others until you first love yourself,” it’s also true that learning how to love others can help you learn how to love yourself.

  3. I have found that the Sound Meditations (particularly for soul defragmentation) available on this site are VERY helpful for PTSD. I have tried various ways throughout my adult life to heal some serious traumas that began at age 2, and this was an excellent tool. But I tell you, for me, NOTHING really worked until I was willing and able to do a deep and thorough self examination. It has been and continues to be the most valuable time and effort I could have spent. Be prepared that some people may not understand your purpose and call you selfish. But realize that you can not truly give of yourself to others until you actually have a SELF to give. It is so beautifully worth it!!!

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